Empty hands

I saw her sitting there on the upturned crate.

Old weathered face, wrinkled from some far away sun and a lifetime of experience.

Scarf on head, hobbled leg in front of her, the crutch lying on the cobbled street beside her.

It was a busy afternoon. People rushed by – her empty hat smiled hopefully up at them,

Waiting for a few coins, a smile, a look in the eyes. Anything to acknowledge her humanity.

She sat there unnoticed, just another statistic. Easily dismissed with a ‘They work in gangs to beg and don’t need the money.”

I too have been guilty of the not noticing. But not today. I felt so sad to see this old woman sitting there, invisible.

Those hands have nurtured, loved, baked, cared for others, those hands were beautiful with her love.

So, I bought a single red flower. “For you,” I said quietly while looking into her eyes filled with tears and – perhaps – a fierce joy.

I wanted to fill those hands with something lovely. A gesture to let her know: “I have seen you.”

I’m not a better person than you – I’m probably a much worse one, in fact.

But she is me. They are us.

“It’s not how much we give but how much love we put into giving.”
— Mother Teresa

I’m very happy to announce that the My World meme is continuing under the name: Our World Tuesday. In memory of Klaus, who created a great network of people from around the world and helped them to become friends.


Please feel free to join the Our World community on Facebook too.

97 thoughts on “Empty hands

  1. They are us, and today we were given a beautiful, single red flower – through this lovely lady’s hands.

    Thank you for this wonderful post, Lady Fi! 🙂

    Karen

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  2. This is a beautiful — and at the same time, sad — post. It’s sad, because of the plight of that poor woman. It’s beautiful because her humanity was recognized, and we were all reminded of the need to actually see these, our neighbors.

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  3. Thanks for the reminder to add the My World link today. I had meant to add that last night when I was getting the post ready, but instead, my aging memory hit the delete button as it does so frequently!!! But I have added the link now. So happy to have you on board with us!!! Have a lovely evening and a great week!

    Sylvia

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  4. Hi, LadyFi. Thanks for visiting my blog for the first time. I have added yours to my blog roll and will visit it daily. I notice you use WordPress, too. Love your format!

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  5. Lovely post. I am thinking about how it makes me feel when (for example) a clerk in a store doesn’t acknowledge my presence, but keeps talking to her friend as she rings up my purchases. ( I, who have all the resources and friends and family I need — who never ignore me — and yet I am momentarily sad when a perfect stranger fails to acknowledge me as a fellow human being.) And so I can i so easily how this woman who has nothing and is ignored by almost everybody would have appreciated what you did.

    Thanks for makling me think!

    And thanks again for “Our World.”

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  6. I think it is the human condition to want to be noticed. Should this woman sitting on the street, however, feel somewhat humiliated by her plight, the rose would signify respect and a shared appreciation of beauty.

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  7. What a beautiful gift. And to have noticed her hands and thought about them (we can tell an awful lot about a person by looking at their hands). You are such a generous person!

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  8. I once held hands with a homeless man in a park for 30 minutes while he told me his story. All my friends and family said I was an idiot for doing that as he could have hurt me but I felt so good inside afterwards by being there for another human being. Lovely post and photos.

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  9. Truly a lovely post. It’s too easy to pretend their not there. Even when you don’t have the money to help- a smile! It can mean the world, I think, I hope! Thanks!

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  10. I always try to smile, even when I’m in a group, being rushed along by my husband, but the red flower — that’s wonderful, Fi. Bless you.
    — K

    Kay, Alberta, Canada
    An Unfittie’s Guide to Adventurous Travel

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  11. Thank you, I know the feeling. When I was young and on an art school sketching expedition in a derelict building, I met a squatter on a mattress who obviously had just slept off the cheap drink of the night before.
    I quietly went across the road and got a healthy sandwich and I will never forget his face, he was speechless that anyone could do that.

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  12. Hi there – I still think its strange that I see people who claim the text, Facebook and blogs keep them in touch – but you can see that that ignore people who are a few feet from them. Strange.
    Great post.
    SM

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  13. Great post. It is too easy to lump those who make us uncomfortable as part of “they” whoever “they” is, it is much harder to treat people as people.

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  14. What a touching post! Living so close to the city, this is something we see everyday and yet we don’t *see* at all. Thanks for the gentle reminder.

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  15. I know exactly what you mean by ‘They work in gangs to beg and don’t need the money.”, as there are many ‘wrinkled faces from some far away sun’ here too… and it’s sad, very sad. This is a very moving post, Lady Fi.

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  16. Love the Mother Teresa quote… That says it all, doesn’t it? YES–the homeless and needy are all around us. When you think, while looking at that woman, that this could be US —with a little bad luck or change in our lives. Scary to think about, isn’t it?

    Great post.. Thanks!
    Hugs,
    Betsy

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  17. Sometimes the spirit moves me to give to a beggar. It doesn’t matter if they are needy or not, I’ve ceased to worry. Better to give to nine who don’t deserve than miss the one in need.

    My thanks to you and the rest of the hosts for continuing this meme concept. It encourages us all to look at our world in a more inclusive way. We share a single Earth.

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  18. In my corner of our world, I see a lot of poverty and pain. I confess some days I am more humane than others… it overwhelms me at times. But there is truth to the “gang” story, Fi, and so I stash a basket of edibles, from crackers to small cans of sardines that I give to the [mostly child] beggars on the street. I have given food to homeless in the States, too, but on more than one occasion they have aggressively rejected it making it hard to act humane, even when one feels compassion.

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  19. That is a very powerful post and message to all of us. I looked at the picture of this old lady and I thought about her life. What did she hope about and dream. Was she ever happy in her life. And how was life treating her? Sad, very sad….

    This are two exquisite pictures. One tells us a story and another warms our heart.

    Beautiful post, fantastic pictures. I love them both very, very much.

    Thank you for this thoughtful and touching post.

    Greetings from Kaya.

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  20. Fiona, I was shocked to hear that Klaus is no longer with us. I haven’t taken part in Skywatch or My World for some time (I was finding it difficult to keep up with returning all the comments) and I didn’t know Klaus had passed away this month. I followed the links to his blog and found that he had pre-arranged quite a lot of posts and is still, therefore, sharing his marvellous photos with the world. Good luck to you, Arija, Sandy and Sylvie with the new meme. I don’t know if I will take part, but I know those of you who do will enjoy many beautiful and thought-provoking sights from all over the world.
    Janice. x

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  21. Yes, some of us go along our self-centered lives forgetting others. We don’t make eye contact and forget to look around us. Thanks for this important message.

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  22. This was beautiful and truly spoke to the times we live in. So glad I stopped by on Sonia’s recommendations.

    Thanks for making us all step back and reframe what we think we see.
    b

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  23. Beautifully expressed – I hate to realize how cynical I can be but I caught myself thinking the woman probably didn’t want a flower she wanted money. I have that side of me but the stronger side is so touched to read about this because as you write, we all just want to be noticed. There was such a history there and how wonderful that you took the time to be with it.

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  24. thank you so much for sharing this. it’s nearly impossible to walk downtown la without seeing the homeless. sometimes i don’t see them, although i consider myself an advocate for them sometimes. the problem is overwhelming, seemingly. but it is also solvable. we just have to care and act.

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  25. Can we get a few Republicans to read your post? Sorry — that wasn’t nice.

    This is such an inspiring thing you did. I’m so glad I had the opportunity to view this today. Thank you.

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